Emotions
Emotions. They rise and fall. Come and go. Own us. Drive us and even control us. They can lead us into bliss or destruction. We do it all the time; action begets reaction. How many times has a person done something to us; or something happened to us that has sent us simply ballistic? It is human nature. We are momentarily thrown into the flight or fight response. Most times we get through it. Understanding creeps in and calm prevails. Not always.
Case in point. Years ago I carried a hate for someone that had hurt me. This went on for a very long time. It took up a place in me that left little room for joy to enter. I thought this was the opposite of love. Little did I realize this was only perpetuating the harm that was done to me. What a concept! Why did it take me so long to come to that realization? A hard lesson. During that period those feelings deprived me of personal growth and put a filter through which I saw the world. I will never know what I lost during that time or who I affected with my attitude. Thankfully a time came when I did not care anymore. How did that happen? Continual review of the past situation brought understanding. Healing began. I even forgave myself. The personal power I gave away by carrying the anger returned to me. I do not claim to know the definition of forgiveness but I am betting that it encompasses empathy, sympathy, understanding, and freedom. The realization dawned on me that the opposite of love is not hate; but apathy. I was free. Think about it. If hurt and anger have a hold on you the one being damaged is you. Let it go. The past is indeed over. The colors of your art and your life will be brighter. The muse will visit more often. Your work, your friends and family will benefit. When hate and anger turn to apathy you win.
Case in point. Years ago I carried a hate for someone that had hurt me. This went on for a very long time. It took up a place in me that left little room for joy to enter. I thought this was the opposite of love. Little did I realize this was only perpetuating the harm that was done to me. What a concept! Why did it take me so long to come to that realization? A hard lesson. During that period those feelings deprived me of personal growth and put a filter through which I saw the world. I will never know what I lost during that time or who I affected with my attitude. Thankfully a time came when I did not care anymore. How did that happen? Continual review of the past situation brought understanding. Healing began. I even forgave myself. The personal power I gave away by carrying the anger returned to me. I do not claim to know the definition of forgiveness but I am betting that it encompasses empathy, sympathy, understanding, and freedom. The realization dawned on me that the opposite of love is not hate; but apathy. I was free. Think about it. If hurt and anger have a hold on you the one being damaged is you. Let it go. The past is indeed over. The colors of your art and your life will be brighter. The muse will visit more often. Your work, your friends and family will benefit. When hate and anger turn to apathy you win.
مرحبا ، أنيق آخر. هناك مشكلة مع موقعك في إنترنت إكسبلورر ، سوف اختبار هذا... أي لا تزال الشركة الرائدة في السوق ، وجزء كبير من الناس سيغيب كتاباتك رائعة وبسبب هذه المشكلة.
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I usually don't read blogs. I have little patience for them but since I know you, I was curious of what you would write. Reading your hate experience just came after I was pondering this morning about forgiveness... It seems that subconsciously or not, you forgave yourself and the other person. And... Hurray! Freedom and peace! I like what someone wrote:" Resentment is like you holding charcoal with the intention of throwing it at others but you end up having scars on your hands"
Your recent art really illustrates how free and creative you are: those vibrant colors are the expression of your liberation. Keep creating (and an innervoice tells me: do it as well for yourself). Thank you for sharing! And by the way your blog is so easy to access to and to respond to: another good accomplishment!
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